Monday, October 27, 2008
Does it count as a call if a friend is on the other end of the line?
A fostering friend is in a bit of a bind.
The Bio Mom of a little girl she is adopting is pregnant. Really pregnant. Gonna'-have-a-baby-any-day-now pregnant. Oh, and she's addicted to meth.
Friend is at capacity. She has a two year-old who is firmly attached to her and awaiting TPR so that she can be moved to relatives out of country. She has the baby she's adopting. And she has a little boy who is headed to TPR. She and her husband were planning to adopt this little man when he becomes legally free.
At capacity means she either keeps the kiddos she has and let the sibling pass into foster care ... or she can let one of the others be placed outside of her home and take the new sibling.
They decided to keep the siblings together. And, with the sacrificial love of true parents, they have decided to let the five month-old infant that they were planning to adopt be moved. The two year-old has been through so many changes, and she has another six to nine months of wait time before she moves on to her family. Another move in between would be devastating for her.
They will miss baby boy, but they feel like this is the best choice to make in a series of decisions that no one ever wants to make.
The phone rings.
Would we like to take him?
Oh ... my.